In Search of True Love

I watched with interest a wedding video, which was classy and the people all looked very happy in a celebratory mood. The bride and the groom were giving love a second chance because they were wedding for the second time since their first marriages had failed. 

As they danced to a song that was popular in the ’80s called “No more fake love. I want true love babe” I asked myself,  “What is true love?” There are many people who thought at some stage that they had found true love, but circumstances made them redefine their definition of true love. Many claimed till death do us part on their wedding day and were committed to keeping their vows, but as they walked the journey of love, fear, and pain, betrayal made them redefine what they had thought to be true love not only for their partner but for them as well. Even those who cheered for the perceived true love shook their heads with empathy when they heard the statement “There is no true love” because at that moment it was justifiable to say so.

I once saw an advertisement that said, “There is no true love like a mother’s love”. I recall at a women’s meeting I attended last year two women shared their agony that their mothers rejected them at a young age. To one it was because she had chosen to walk away from a church that her mum was loyal to then and to date. She had her reasons to walk away and as a listener, you would have thought because a mother’s love is the true love, mum should have chosen her daughter over the church. The other lady’s mum rejected her because she could not bear the pain of raising a daughter who was conceived during a rape. Isaiah 49:15 “Can a woman forget her nursing child, And not have compassion on the son of her womb? Surely, they may forget, Yet I will not forget you.”

There is an Idiom, “Blood is thicker than water.”  In Arabic, the statement goes, “ Blood is thicker than breast milk from a mother.” This statement where blood is compared to milk or water is normally shared to mean that the bond between family members is the strongest and the most consistent of relationships. 

But there are many incidences I have heard where brothers have killed each other over a family inheritance. Other family members have walked away in pain and changed their names and surnames because they had been betrayed by family. In their pain, they wanted to dissociate with everything to do with that family. If you ask their definition of “True love” they may have redefined it.

 Proverbs 18:24 ”A man who has friends must themselves be friendly, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”

As I continued to watch the wedding video I also started to ask myself the definition of true love. Does being in a marriage for the rest of your life mean you found true love? Did that parent who dove into the ocean when their child was being swept away by the waves have more true love than the one who screamed for help in their helpless state because they could not swim and were so sure diving in the water meant leaving the other four children orphans? As I looked at my journey of life I smiled at the thought that I have found true love in God. People have failed not because they are bad but because we all have our own limitations. When I look back on my steps at the times when I thought He was silent or far away, my Bible states in Psalms 121:3-5 “He will not allow your foot to be moved. He who keeps you will not slumber; Behold He who keeps Israel shall neither slumber nor sleep. The Lord is your keeper. The Lord is your shade at your right hand.” 

Hebrews 13:5-6 ”Let your conduct be without covetousness: be content with such things as you have. For He Himself has said” I will never leave you nor forsake you.” 

So, we may boldly say: The Lord is my helper; I will not fear What can man do to me.” 

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