God is the Ultimate Matchmaker
After my marriage ended in 2010, I had serious soul searching to do. Help came my way through a local church offering DivorceCare; a Christian-based program that ran for 13 weeks. A place where hope and encouragement was given to individuals struggling with the hurt and pain associated with a broken marriage and divorce. I registered to attend, and this support group benefited me greatly. In one of the video shown, a piece of advice given by the facilitator resonated with me. “Don’t go looking for a husband. Let the Lord bring him to you. He could be clear across the world, and the Lord will bring him to you.” His words settled in my heart as a nugget of truth for me to remember.
Did I want to spend the rest of my life alone? No, but if marriage was in my future, I needed to allow God to bring His choice for a husband into my life, in His time and way. I took advantage of the time I had living alone to read Christian-based articles and books on marriage and relationships. I was determined to become the best wife possible. The Bible provides guidance and wisdom on everything pertaining to life, including marriage. I love Proverbs 18:22: “Whoever finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor of the LORD.” The qualities and characteristics of a godly woman are beautifully described in Proverbs 31. Her husband, family, and all who knew her were richly blessed. With God’s help my goal was to become more like her.
Time was invested in determining the qualities and characteristics I desired in a husband. I wrote out what was important to me in a life mate, I shared what I wrote out with God. I believed the man God chose for me would appear at His appointed time. I went about living my life single. Life was good; having someone to share it with would be an added bonus.
In late 2014 my mother was diagnosed with cancer. Over the next several months, I made weekly trips to visit and give assistance in whatever way possible. Part of my routine was to stop and get a coffee before heading to Mom’s place. On one particular morning, an interesting thing happened. Just as I was about to leave, a nice-looking man walked in and took a seat. A friend was waiting in line so I asked her, “Who’s that? He not hard on the eyes.” She grinned and said, “That’s Mike. He’d be a good man for you.” Her comment surprised me. I never expected to meet someone while making weekly visits to Mom’s. Little did I know, God had a plan and it was about to unfold.
A few weeks later, Mike was seated in the coffee shop with my cousin Steve. He invited me to join them and introduced me to Mike. A friendship was formed and our relationship blossomed from there. He laughed when I told him my initial reaction on seeing him for the first time. He smiled and said, “So strange that you saw me walk in when you did. I’m not usually there at that time of day.” We realized our meeting took place on God’s appointed day and time.
Yes; Mike is a handsome, but more importantly a kind and caring Christian man. He is a hard worker; has a great sense of humor; dearly loves his family and has a good relationship with them; likes to sing and play guitar; and openly shows his love for me in many ways.
God knows my heart and my desires. The man He put in m path possessed what I desired in a husband. Mike and I got married on October 8, 2016 and we are discovering what is required to have a godly marriage. God is in the center of our marriage, and His Word provides everything we need in this journey of life together. I’m sure God smiled upon hearing me say, Praise the Lord, He gave me a husband who likes to clean.” I’m a blessed wife and I don’t mind saying so.
My advice to women seeking love and marriage; talk openly to God about what the you desire in a husband and life mate; let Him choose the right man for you, knowing in God’s appointed time, your paths will cross. God is the ultimate matchmaker.
Anne-Marie Madore is the author of God Said, “I WILL” Promise Book. Details on the book, and her God Inspired Blog are found on anne-mariemadore.ca.
